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He Believed…

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I think to myself all the time, “you can’t make this stuff”….

  • Being told you have metastasized cancer at 39 less than a week before Christmas. (Dec 2016)
  • Finding out you have cancer with a 12 month old, 3 year old, and a college Freshman. (Dec 2016)
  • Being told your biopsy is inconclusive and they have no idea where cancer began and/or what type of cancer. (Unknown Type: Dec 2016-Aug 2018; Unknown Primary: Dec 2016-Dec 2018)
  • Having 3 oncologists during your first month of treatment. (Jan/Feb 2017)
  • Being told surgery isn’t an option because the cancer is too far spread in liver and/or most will not do liver surgery if liver is not the primary cancer. (Feb/March 2017)
  • Coming to the understanding that a liver transplant is not likely for a metastatic cancer patient but available to those who drink themselves into liver failure can get one. (Feb/March 2017)
  • Starting “empirical treatment” that has a 10-50% chance of working because after a month of tests, you can’t wait any longer to start treatment. (February 2017)
  • Being told there are really no other options than treatment for life, that remission is unlikely, and statistically you have a year to live. (March 2017)
  • Finding a cancer pioneer, who believes and knocking the cancer down after 7 months of treatment which was totally unexpected. (February 2017)
  • Finding out that your oncologist, your believer, your miracle worker, was killed in a car crash after a lifetime treating patients (March 2018)

And this was just part of the first 14 months…

I have never felt more broken than I did when I realized that there were very few options for me to fight this cancer. It was almost three months into chemotherapy while being treated for a cancer that could not be identified despite two biopsies that we made the trip to MD Anderson, the #1 cancer hospital in the US, for a second opinion. We thoroughly expected that MD Anderson would have answers for us. We had high expectations.

The trip did not go as expected. I have never been more broken than that day in late March at MD Anderson when the doctor who we had hoped and anticipated to give us more treatment options and answers, told us that there were not many other options, that I had a highly aggressive disease (way different from that of “famous” pancreatic patients like Steve Jobs), that no surgeon known would operate on a liver that is 60-80% compromised, and that I would have some form of treatment for life. That statistically someone with my disease would live 1 year but that the longer I lived the better chances I had.

My husband has described this visit as destructive to us and it was. We always believed we could tackle anything and here we were being told we couldn’t. We felt helpless and severely broken. All we could think about was the cancer. All I could think about was that my then one year old son would never even remember me or know me. I was fixated on the pain that my family would go through and the fact that I would not be with them. I fixated on the fact that my kids would end up with another Mom and my husband another wife. I didn’t get any new solutions or answers, I was given a sentence.

My reaction although broken was to call my doctor’s nurse at Moffitt. In tears, I explained I didn’t want to wait 2 weeks for my next chemo appointment and that I wanted to start next week. I explained what happened in Houston and she set up my appointments for the next week. I am so lucky that she understood my need to get chemo started quickly.

I was so scared for my appointment with Dr. Williams. Fearful that he would agree completely with MD Anderson. It was April 7, 2017, My dear friend and old math teacher, drove me down for the doctors visit and chemo. My husband had to work because he had taken a week off to go with me to Houston. We were sitting in the exam room when Dr. Williams walked in. He pulled a chair up and sat facing me and said “Why are you here?” He knew I had went to MD Anderson and was back a week early to see him. In tears, reading from my notes to help me keep it together, I explained what I had been told, and that I needed to start treatment quickly because I needed to fight this because I need to be here. I told him I needed a miracle. He looked me in the eye, and told me “I Believe In Miracles”. He did not discount anything I had been told in Houston but he was hopeful. As he walked out, he patted me on the shoulder and said “you are in the right place”.

Dr. Williams never discussed time lines with me and/or the mortality of the cancer, he encouraged me to fight it. He was a man of few words. I knew if we had to discuss the end we would and that if I needed to prepare my family he would tell me. His belief kept me focused and fighting.

Dr. Williams is the reason I am still here. He found a chemo that worked when we didn’t even know what kind of cancer I had. He guided me in knocking a cancer down that no one ever expected me to. He BELIEVED when many wouldn’t.

I wish I had more time with Dr. Williams and knew him better. He was killed in a car accident on his way to Moffitt in March 2017. I did not know until after he was gone, that my doctor was a pioneer in the cancer world. He was the first Black medical resident at Tampa General Hospital and worked at Moffitt since it opened in 1986.
https://www.legacy.com/obituaries/tampabaytimes/obituary.aspx?n=charles-canaan-williams&pid=188652765&fhid=16800 .

I was lucky that Dr. Williams chose to treat me. As I sit in the chemo chair, I like to think that he is looking down on me, helping me fight, and cheering me on.

I am here, because he believed in me and he believed in miracles.

https://moffitt.org/about-moffitt/remembering-dr-charles-williams/

Round 18 and more to come!!!

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Round 18, 54 days of infusions, over 56 days at Moffitt in the past 10 months, and more scans than I care to count…. BUT…. miraculously the Carboplatin and Etoposide continues to work and my cancer is getting smaller and there is no evidence of new cancer. (It is important to note that one cannot access the activity in the bones during treatment because as I understand it they inflame and are actively fighting) My body is handling the chemo well, yes I have a new normal and I don’t remember what the old normal is, but I can still handle this, adapt as the changes come, and be present with my squad. It is so weird to think I could be happy for more chemo, but, I am happy for more anything!!!

Yesterday was a super long day. I checked into Moffitt International Plaza at 8:30AM and closed the Infusion unit at Moffitt Main Campus at 9:30PM. Yes- I was again the last patient. We cram it all into one day because this minimizes our time away from the family and the potential negative effect on the family. Thankfully, I utilized Priceline to get a great rate at the Westin Waterfront hotel in downtown Tampa. This is about 25 minutes but gives us a little pampering- water therapy, city therapy and makes me feel like I am part of the real world again.

It was amazing to sleep with the lights of the city and the view of the bay. We started the morning at the Starbucks downstairs (YES- my weakness) and enjoyed it by the pool looking at the bay. Priceless- to have quiet Wallace time with no distractions.

After our outside time, I actually took my Steroids. Many of you know that for the last two rounds I have tried to limit or stop my steroids in the three days following day one of chemo because I hate (whoops- this word is not allowed in our house per the little kids), I mean dislike how they make me feel. However, after the last round I struggled bouncing back so I am trying the steroids again. They seem to help with the upset stomach and remaining colitis issues that were a result of radiation. I am hoping they help, if not I am going “steroid rogue” again on the next round of chemo.

In our relaxed state today, we headed to a BBQ place I found online. Many of you are shocked- Me going to a BBQ place, I have been a vegetarian since 7th grade with times of vegan and other more recent times with some fish. My husband is a meat eater and a chef- we both love new restaurants and I just eat what I can. The Deviled Pig was today’s new adventure. It is a really cute BBQ place. Wallace enjoyed his MEAT, while I had yummy sides. If you live in Tampa or visit, I would try it!

We are now back at the hotel resting. Due to the late chemo night yesterday, today’s infusion isn’t until after 6PM. One of my favorite benefits of these Tampa adventures is visiting with my dear friend. She is a light that I did not know I needed. I so love spending time with her. Those who know us both know we were classmates in middle school that lost touch for 18 years (I think!). After chemo tonight, Wallace and I have the pleasure of hanging with her and her husband for a bit. We will see if this bald lady can get in any trouble.

Thank you all for reading my posts and sharing them, cheering me on, believing in me, praying with me, staying positive, supporting my family and I, and most of all- Believing In Miracles!

His Face Said It All…

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Wallace’s face said it all. He just looked at me in disbelief, maybe a little annoyance, maybe fear…. It wasn’t anything huge… but it could be.

It is a Moffitt day and a long one. We left the house at 6:30AM and Wallace drove the 2 hours it took to get to Tampa. We had to go to Moffitt’s location that is farthest away from our house because it was the only PET scan appointment available that allowed us to do everything on the same day. We arrived here, checked in and headed to the Labs/Imaging waiting area. I immediately started organizing our stuff. I wanted Wallace to have the snacks (He gets hungry lol) and I needed my computer out of his bag. Within minutes, the nurse called me to go in for labs. Fifteen minutes later, I headed back out into the waiting room to wait to be called for my PET Scan. I immediately looked at Wallace and said, “please take the snacks out of my bag” and with the look of disbelief, annoyance, and fear he said “you mean the ones you gave me already”. I had no recollection that I actually gave them to him before I was called in for labs.

They call this chemo fog, chemo brain, and other things. All it means is your short term memory is effected as well as your processing. For me, it has been rough. I always remembered everything long term and my working memory was super fast. Now, I have to slow down and take my time to think through things. Word and short term recall can take me a bit longer. It is frustrating, but it is also scary because it will get worse with the more chemo I receive. It makes me very self conscious and inadequate.

The chemo fog goes away slowly when chemo stops, but some of it can stay. I know that my working memory, processing speed, word recall, and some oral reading has changed a bit. This is not evident to most around me, except to those closest to my heart. My husband and 21 year old notice the changes the most. They normally giggle through it all with me. With my husband’s encouragement, I now write a lot of lists. The challenges of the fog are most evident to me and bother me the most.

But….. his face said it all. I had no clue I had already given him the snacks. I know it is a busy and stressful day and that can add to my lack of focus. Yet, it is the fear of what the future holds that makes these moments have an impact that can’t be swept away with humor and giggles.

(I am now in the PET recliner where my Super Hero radioactive juice marinates for about 90 minutes. Then I will have the scan. Doctor and chemo are later this afternoon.)

I Think I Lost A Week…

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I feel like I have totally lost a week. I think this always happens the week after chemo. It’s not like I have been in bed all day or anything.. I have been handling the treatment pretty well. Sure, I feel yucky at times and sore. My brain gets foggy and I am tired and irritable. I can’t taste things and my throat is burnt, but I can function and am participating in life daily. Having felt yucky so many times, I think I kind of accept this as a new normal and think of myself as okay and good as long as I am not horrible and totally incapable. I wonder if prior to chemo I would think of this as being bad- no clue- as I don’t think I honestly know anymore how it feels to be normal. People ask me all the time “How are you handling this round?” and I say I am ok. I have felt much much worse on this adventure.

The week after chemo is not a fun week. In reality, I finally feel pretty good the few days before chemo and somewhat invincible thinking “I can do this” and then after 3 days of infusions and Neulasta on the fourth day, I feel pretty useless. Those of you that know me, know that I am “energizerbunnyish” and do most things at a high rate of speed (especially talking lol). I struggle to just sit and watch tv, or rest. After chemo, being able to drive to get a cup of coffee a mile away is a challenge. Getting the kids ready for school, wears me out. Remembering passwords to simply shop online or check the bank balance takes too long and can be frustrating. It is mentally tough and hard not to get in my head and start to worry about all things cancer and future related. Are we doing enough? Is it working? Is tomorrow going to be worse?

For my Mom, husband, and my 21 year old, the week after chemo is a challenge too. They see me struggling and I think all we all can think about is the cancer. Despite the bald head, I think I fool them most of the time but when we are in the heart of the treatment it is tough. I think we all selectively forget because if we didn’t we wouldn’t be able to function on a daily basis. I do not think the fear ever goes away. We have no set plan, it is wait and see.

For my 3 and 6 year old, this is juts normal life. We have made my treatment a part of life. It is what Mommy needs to fight the big bug so she does it. When I got home from treatment, they inspected me (as they do every time) to see if I have my “beeper” aka on-body Neulasta and if my port has a band aid. Then for the next 24 hours, they check to see if the Neulasta is blinking and both beg to watch me take it off (there is no blood). They think it is kind of cool but just also want to be involved. Maddie always asks me at bedtime, “When do you go to Moffitt again” and I tell her how many more days. She is not fearful, she just wants to know when I will be away. When I feel yucky, their inquisitiveness and wanted involvement makes me sad because I truly feel no child should have to go through this. I hate the poor prognosis that predicts the future of them without me. I just wish this wasn’t our life. On the flip side, at these times, I also feel proud. Proud that my kids are strong, resilient, and learning to understand what is going on. Proud that Wallace, my Mom, and I have been able to find a way to explain “cancer life” to them at their developmental level with knowledge and not fear.

To say, the week after chemo is emotional is an understatement. But, as with all things…. the the fog clears, and a new week begins. This is when I try to force in everything I haven’t been able to do for the past 11 days… This week I look forward to a pediatrician appointment, an unplanned visit to Moffitt tomorrow, family friends visiting on Wednesday (YAY!), tie dying t-shirts with Maddie’s Kindergarten class on Thursday, and a date night!!

Did I really lose a week? No! I cuddled with my kids every day, read some stories, drove for coffee, had lunch with a friend, cooked dinner, went with Wallace and the kids to an outdoor festival, and saw Jenna Bush Hager speak on a “face time” like screen in Tampa with my dear friend. I was present. Life could be much much worse. (See, I am starting to feel invincible.)

Giggling through chemo…

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Therapy- “treatment intended to relieve and or heal a disorder” Humor- “the quality of being amusing or comic, mood, disposition, frame of mind” (Definitions sited from Google Dictionary)

On chemo days (and all doctor or what we call Moffitt days) we practice what my husband calls Humortherapy. It is our treatment, disposition, and frame of mind to relieve, handle, get through, tolerate, digest, and survive this life sentence that we call an adventure. Without jokes, laughs, giggles, and a positive outlook we would be sleeping all day, hiding under our desks or in the closet, and not living our lives. When we giggle, smile or laugh, those sitting next to us might think we are inappropriate, disrespectful, or that we don’t have as bad a situation as others. Please know no one has ever questioned our laughter, giggles or positivity- we normally make a lot of friends. I like to think our light hearted attitude gets us through the days without panicking about long wait times, schedules being thrown off, messed up doctors orders, risks of treatment, or this whole depressing situation. We take it as it comes and we giggle through it. I truly believe humortherapy keeps us going. I believe in GIGGLING!

I guess I should start by prefacing that I am writing this while sitting out side, staring at the Tampa skyline or some part of it. Tampa is a huge sprawling city. We have learned that if it is possible, staying in Tampa for the nights we have 3 straight days of chemo is therapeutic and necessary. Though we only live 90 minutes a way, driving at 80mph without traffic, it is a highly stressful interstate drive that adds a minimum of 3 hours to every day- normally more like 4-5 hours. This is exhausting when you go home to mommying and daddying (and feel yucky). Although Wallace isn’t getting the treatment- these days are just as exhausting physically and emotionally for him. We miss our kiddos, but we are much better parents when we come home rested on the final day. These hotel stays also allow me to rest, recharge,and spend some quality time with my husband.

Many have asked me what chemo days are like. I can tell you what mine look like, but please know this is just my experience and is probably nothing like my other cancer friends experiences.

6AM: We leave the house and head to Moffitt Cancer Center in Tampa. This isn’t a fasting day so we rush through the Dunkin drive through. (I am being inspired and guided by an old dear friend’s confidence in me to give up the bad stuff. So starting Sunday- only black coffee and no donuts. Ironically, I am super excited about the changes.)

7:30AM: Arrive at Moffitt. One of my favorite features of Moffitt is their valet system. You just drive up, hand the really nice valets your keys, and head in the building. We speed walk to the lab where I have my port accessed and labs drawn. Many probably don’t know what a port is and I didn’t know what it was or really didn’t want one, but it is my best friend now. It is implanted above my right chest (yes- you can see the outline of it and it isn’t pretty).It has a piece of vinyl tubing (just like the stuff I sold most of my life in the hardware store) that leads up to a vein in my neck and goes directly to the heart. My port aka best friend allows me to get all labs drawn, infusions, medications, fluids, contrast for scans, and probably more without having to find a vein and have an IV inserted. I can’t imagine doing this adventure without it- someday I will have to count how many times it has been used… chemo alone is 51, then any other lab draws, CAT scans, PET scans, MRI’s, hospital stays… For those who are nerdy like me and want to know more about ports, this article from Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center has a great explanation:
https://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/patient-education/your-implanted-port

8AM: We head to the 3rd floor to check in with a doctor who is monitoring my bones to see how the bone metastases (mets) is effecting my bones structurally. He specifically looks at my shoulders, arms, hands, hips, pelvis, legs, and feet. I have had cancer that we know of in my hips, pelvic area, part of left upper leg, right shoulder. Some of this we eradicated (boy I love that word), some we knocked down and it grew back, some is new. For me, the bone mets is secondary to my pancreas and liver areas this means that most treatment will be for palliative (reducing pain) and or if I am at risk for breaking anything. We had a very positive visit. Bones look strong!

8:45 AM: We head to fifth floor to GI clinic for required check up before chemo is approved. Closer to 10AM, we are called in to see my doctor’s PA. She asks how I am feeling, we discuss any concerns, and go over lab results. All looks good, so she sends us on our way to chemo.

10:15 AM: We head to fourth floor to the Infusion center and check in. I leave Wallace with my beeper and head to first floor gift shop to get him a Snickers and me a juice. (Juice isn’t a norm for me, but I was feeling a little off balance) After a long morning, Snickers brighten him up! They are peanutopolis!
\pE-nut-ä-pu-lis\ (noun). A state of mind making you feel very strong and powerful, almost mayor-like. (Urban Dictionary)

11:15 AM: We are called back to be seated. The infusion staff at Moffitt Magnolia is wonderful. They make you comfortable, feel valued, and are funny, kind, and compassionate. We have our own curtained off cubicle- it is good size, I have a recliner and Wallace has a seat with a gravity type of back that he likes.

11:30 AM: The nurse comes in and checks over at home medications, how I am feeling, any concerns, etc. Then he starts my line into my port. Premeds come first: Dexamethasone, Aloxi (nausea), Emend (nausea), Pepcid, and Benadryl. The Premed’s take about an hour.

12:30PM: The nurse comes back in and puts on what I call a hazmat suit. A blue thicker gown with cuffs that covers the body neck down and ties in the back. Chemo drugs are toxic/poisonous among other things- yet with giggles I write this: they are being injected into my body via my heart. The nurse then hangs the chemo and after I check it, and another nurse double checks it and the settings in the computer and machine, I am connected and infusion begins. My first chemo is Carboplatin and this runs for 2 hours and my second chemo is Etoposide which runs for an hour. I was exhausted and full of Benadryl so I slept for an hour. My favorite part of Moffitt days is seeing my dear “nurse friend”. She knows who she is and she always boosts my spirits, validates my concerns, points me in the right direction, and brightens my day. Although I haven’t know you long “nurse friend”, I am so lucky to have you in my life and feel like I have known you forever.

3:45PM: The nurse disconnects me and removes the access to my port. I prefer being re-stuck every day. This allows me to shower easily, sleep comfortably, and also give both sides of my port activity.

4:00PM: We are at the valet getting the car and quickly driving to hotel.

4:45PM: Although only 15-20 miles, it takes about 45 minutes. I like to choose waterfront hotels because the ocean/bay rejuvenates me. I am an island girl at heart. When you are at Moffitt or any cancer center, I have found it feels like time disappears and although you are positive, it wears you down. I have been using Priceline to get low rates.

5:30PM: An early dinner by the water. (In the hot hot sun, Wallace humored me.)

My hubby in the hot hot sun…. Recharging

7PM: In my PJ’s watching reality TV. (Yes, he humored me again- he dislikes reality TV. (Can’t say hate because that word is a “bad word” in a house with little kids) Day 2 of chemo starts at 12:30 on Friday. Hope to post more after…